The Four Agreements
This post was inspired by The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Highly recommend checking out his book to learn more. 🚀
Now let’s get into the four agreements you can make that will change your life.
The First Agreement
Be impeccable with your word
By being impeccable with your word, you will be able to transcend to the level of existence called heaven on earth.
Through the word - you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.
Impeccability means without sin. A sin is anything you do that goes against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.
When you talk negatively about someone, you are sending emotional poison to them and using the word against yourself. If you love yourself and express that love in interactions, you are being impeccable with the word because the word will produce a similar reaction.
Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through you and clean all the emotional poison that exists within you.But making this agreement is difficult because we learned to do precisely the opposite.
Whenever we hear an opinion and we believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system.
The only thing that can change our belief system is to make a new agreement based on truth. The truth is the most important part of being impeccable with your word.
When we were children, we heard adults gossiping, giving their opinions about other people. The adults transferred emotional poison with their opinions. We learned that gossiping is normal, but it is not.
Your opinion is nothing but your point of view. It is not necessarily true. We create emotional poison and spread it to others so that we can feel right about our point of view.
Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on you. You will only receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea.
You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself and directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace.
Use the word to share your love. Be a beacon of light, beginning with yourself. Think beautiful thoughts, and tell yourself how wonderful you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself. Use the word to break those tiny agreements that make you suffer.
Impeccability of the word can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.
The Second Agreement
Don’t Take Anything Personally
When someone makes a comment to you, you take it personally because you agree with whatever was said.
Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we assume everything is about me.
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own minds. They are in a completely different world than we are.
If someone gives you an opinion, don’t take it personally because the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. That person tried to send poison to you, and if you take it personally, then you accept that poison, and it becomes yours.
When you take things personally, you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little because you need to be right.
When someone makes a comment to you, good or bad, it should not affect you because you know who and what you are. You do not have to be accepted. You do not need external validation.
You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for yourself. When you understand this, you will hardly be hurt by careless comments or actions of others.
The Third Agreement
Don’t Make Assumptions
All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally.
It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption because assumptions set us up for suffering.
Making assumptions is asking for problems.
Humans need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything to feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things that the reasoning mind cannot explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe. That is why we make assumptions.
Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them.
The day you stop making assumptions, you will communicate cleanly and clearly, free of emotional poison. Without making assumptions your word becomes impeccable.
Be a beacon of light and use the word for creation, giving, sharing, and loving.
The Fourth Agreement
Always do your best
Everything is alive and constantly changing, so sometimes your best will be high quality, and sometimes it will not.
If you try hard to do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed, and in the end, your best will not be enough. You deplete your body and go against yourself, and it will take longer to accomplish your goal. When you do less than your best, you subject yourself to frustrations, self-judgment, guilt, and regrets.
Just do your best in every circumstance. If you always do your best, you won’t judge yourself.
There was a man who wanted to transcend his suffering so he went to a Buddhist temple to find a Master to help him. He went to the Master and asked, “Master, if I meditate four hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate four hours a day, perhaps you will transcend in ten years.”
The man then said, “Master what if I meditate eight hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?”
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate eight hours a day, perhaps you will transcend in twenty years.”
You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life; you are here to live, be happy, and love. If you can do your best in two hours of meditation, but you spend eight instead, you will grow tired and miss the point, and you won’t enjoy life. Do your best, and you will learn that no matter how long you meditate, you can live love and be happy.
Doing your best is taking action because you love it, not because you’re expecting a reward. Most people only take action when they expect a reward, and for that reason, they don’t do their best.
When you do your best, you learn to accept yourself, but you have to be aware and learn from your mistakes. Learning from mistakes means that you look honestly at the results and keep practicing. This increases awareness.
Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way we deny life. Inaction is being afraid to be alive and take the risk of expressing what you are.
Take action, do your best, and you will become a master.
Where You Are Headed!
Eventually, every action becomes a ritual in which you are honoring God. After that, honor God with every thought, emotion, and belief, even what is right or wrong. Every thought becomes a communion with God, and you will live a life without judgments, victimization, and free of the need to gossip and abuse yourself.
Make an agreement with yourself to follow the four agreements in this article to live a happier life.
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